Frank’s Blog : I Can’t Stand Still For 3 Minutes

I like to drink hot stuff in the morning when I wake up. Usually I make hot milk and occasionally I drink tea.

In the beginning of this ritual I found myself not being able to stand still for 3 – 5 min waiting on water to boil, I will always find myself doing something: getting my cup ready, getting the sugar ready, getting my bagel toasted, … Then I thought to myself, now how can I say I’m a calm man with patience if I can’t even stand for 3 min and just watch the water boil, so I challenged my self.

I’m surprised to tell you that I still can’t do it. I still struggle with the idea of standing for 3 min and just stare at a small pot of water. But I’m not giving up!

Hopefully with mastering to stand still for 3 minutes and just do nothing, I will be on my way to be able sit on a bench for 30 minutes and just do nothing (which I want to try one day).

To more patience and stillness!

Frank’s Blog : Being Generous

Where are you being generous?

Completely generous and selfless? So that an organization or a person you care about is changed for the better. And can you do that again, and again, and again?

This is powerful. When you’re generous, and you keep showing up; you build trust. Once you gain trust, people give you attention, and when you get attention, you get to show up again and again and again. The circle keeps on going. So the more you show up, more attention you get.

So where are you being generous?


PS: This post was first published here on February 29.

Are You Being Generous?

Frank’s Blog : Just Chip Away Everything That Doesn’t Look Like David

The brilliant Renaissance artist Michelangelo was asked about the difficulties that he must have encountered in sculpting his masterpiece David. But he replied with an unassuming and comical description of his creative process:

“It is easy. You just chip away the stone that doesn’t look like David.”

No one knows whether he really said it or not, because this answer is often credited to other many great artists. But the point I want to make is; this is a beautiful way of living, if you want to get somewhere, it would be a whole lot easier if you took away anything that don’t take you where you want to go.

i.e: If you want to loose 10 lbs, it’s easier to get there if along the way you don’t have anything that would make you gain 10 lbs instead of losing them. In other words eliminate the things that takes you back or keeps you still, and by definition you will be moving forward, towards your goal!

Chip away!

Frank’s Blog : Asking Better Questions

Questions help us to connect with one an other, it’s a way of knowing how one thinks and how they came to think and process their thought the way they do.

Then, we have a choice, either ask questions to make someone feel ashamed or downgraded, ask questions and not really listen, or ask questions because we are genuinely interested in someones story, in what they have to say.

With that in mind, what do you think will happen if instead of asking someone “why do you think like that?” we asked: “how did you come to think like that?” ; instead of asking “why would you make that decision?” we asked: “how did you come to making that decision?”

The kind of questions we ask makes the conversation either defensive and closed off or open and enjoyable.

Frank’s Blog : Making Peace With Reality

There is something I read a couple of days ago, and I thought I would share it with you.

If you have a glass like a glass of water, look at it, how shiny and transparent it is. It gets even magical once you hold it on the sun! Now tell yourself that it is going to break, actually that it already broke you just haven’t noticed it yet.

With that picture in your mind, you won’t get upset or frustrated once it happens.This is not to go around saying, yeah I knew this was going to happen, this helps with making peace with what just happened and helps go forward with your life; you don’t even have to say anything, you just say to yourself : “Great, finally it happened, now what?”

With this thinking I have been able to go through a lot things, and keep my head straight. Like when I hold my daughter and she starts screaming, when I take my son for a walk and 5 minutes later, he looks like a cave man, when I’m driving on the high way and my car just stops due to mechanical issues, when everything is going great with my wife and all of the sudden I forgot to tell her I was coming home late, when I have an appointment at 3 and the other person shows up at 3:30, …. You get the idea.

This frame of mind also helped me meditate a lot about my death which is something I have been thinking about a lot, and God forbid the death of my wife or my children. But when I read this, it all made sense. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. And the sooner we make peace with the reality, the sooner we can move forward with all life has to offer.


Frank’s Blog : What Does God Do For You When You Pray?

If one prays for patience, do you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If they pray for courage, does God give them courage, or does he give them opportunities to be courageous? If one prayed for their family to be closer, you think God zaps them with warm, fuzzy feelings? Or does he give them opportunities to love each other?

I heard these words last night when I was watching Evan Almighty. It made me reflect on the things I pray for and how God responds to my prayers!


Here is an excerpt of the movie.