Don’t waste time on false constructs

For all species other than us humans, things just are what they are. Our problem is that we’re always trying to figure out what things mean—why things are the way they are. As though the why matters. Emerson put it best: ‘We cannot spend the day in explanation.

Ryan Holiday in The obstacle is the way

Matthew Hussey on relationships

Life is hard…

Relationships should make it easier, lighter, brighter.

Yet too often we choose relationships that complicate it.

It’s easy to forget that relationships are meant to add to our lives. Yes there are challenges. But overall our partner should be our teammate, not our excess weight.


Great insight on relationships from Matthew on his Instagram (@thematthewhussey)

1 year anniversary!

“I take you to be my spouse to have and hold from this day forward. For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.”

Today my wife and I celebrate the day we both said “Yes” to being there for each other no matter what! I have come to find that the words we said yes to, are really powerful and are not to be taken lightly, they are not just words, they are a way of life.

“May we keep growing closer as we grow older and may we have the strength to go through all that’s ahead of us, may we be kinder and have grace towards each other and above all, may God give us the strength to go through what he has planned for us with courage, joy and happiness!”

As per plan

On his Blog, Rohan wrote a post titled “As per plan” that touched me:


As per plan

Once in a while it is worth pausing and reminding ourselves – “It never goes as per plan.”

This isn’t “good” or “bad.”

It just is.



5-Frank Points Friday

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5-Frank Points Friday,” a list of what I’m pondering and exploring.

What I just finished watching –

RBG Movie – A very powerful documentary on what Ruth Bader Ginsburg did about sex discrimination in the US (you can watch this documentary on Amazon or at

In an era where men, who had all the power, did not believe there is no such thing as sex discrimination, Ruth Bader Ginsburg took a stand and fought for all women to have equal rights as men. Throughout America and It’s beginnings, women were treated as inferior, subordinate, waste of human resources, dependent, too weak to vote,… She fought hard and stood for something. She passed away last week on September 18th due to complications from Pancreatic cancer according to Wikipedia.

A true hero. #restinhonor

What I’m listening –

Acha Nikae Kimya by Diamond Platnumz“. I don’t know Swahili, yet I’ve loved this song for quite a while; mostly because of the beat of the song and also I’m a huge fan of Diamond. Very recently this song kept coming up in my head as I haven’t listened to it for a little while, and I have been listening to it almost every single day for the past few days, on my way to work and on my way back. I finally had the curiosity to find out what the song means, and here is the first part of the song translated into English (from

Acha Nikae Kimya (Let Me Stay Quiet)

Mother says to me “Naseeb

I am old enough and I depend on you now”

Whatever happens try to be quiet, don’t even say a word

Suddenly I hear of the shame of Konda and Gwajima that strife is in plenty

Trying to investigate further, it’s one lady in the internet that is inciting

I try to be silent but my heart won’t let me

You tell me that when a lion roars, you need to state the rights

I try to be silent but even Laizer won’t let me be

He says “at least say anything”

What I’m reading –

Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 secrets every father should know“. A great book by Dr. Meg Meeker. She explains why an active father figure is maybe the single most important factor in a young woman’s development and shows how a father can be both counsel and protector for his daughter as she grows into a spiritually and mentally strong young woman.

What I’m thinking –

How cool would it be to talk to my friends and family in a recorded conversation? Where they talk about what they have gone through thus far, how they managed to get to be where they are, how they view life in the present and what they think about the future. And I want to record these mainly for me to get to know the people close to me and that I care about on a deeper level but also for them to get to hear what they have managed to go through so far and to realize the road ahead of them in their own words.

Quote I’m pondering –

“It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you.”

John Updike in My Father’s Tears and Other Stories

And, as always, please give me feedback on Twitter. Which point above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Please let me know. Just send a tweet to @realfrankibanga and put #5FrankPointsFriday at the end so I can find it.

Have a wonderful weekend, all.

Much love to you and yours,


On being brave

There are so many ways to be brave in this world. Sometimes bravery involves laying down your life for something bigger than yourself, or for someone else. Sometimes it involves giving up everything you have ever known, or everyone you have ever loved, for the sake of something greater.

But sometimes it doesn’t.

Sometimes it is nothing more than gritting your teeth through pain, and the work of every day, the slow walk toward a better life.

That is the sort of bravery I must have now.

Veronica Roth in Allegiant