Most issues, problems, fears can be solved by just switching places with the people you want to do it for. How would I want to be treated if I was in their place ? And go do that.
If I want a raise, I will ask myself what would I want if I was the boss ? I would want someone with high integrity, who is competent, knows there stuff, not snobby and respectful.
If I am a manager, I will ask myself what would I want if I was one of these people I lead ? I would want someone who cares, who cares enough to ask me how are you and mean it, who cares enough to know that family comes first before everything, who cares enough to know that my child is sick, or my dad just had cancer, or I just had a baby, …
Just turn tables!