Frank’s Blog : Being Black In America!

It’s so sad and heartbreaking that this is still happening, it needs to stop. Being a black man with a black wife and 2 black little children (A 2 year old boy and a 3 months old girl) in this country frightens me sometimes. I keep asking myself what I will tell my children, and I feel fear burning inside of me. It shouldn’t be this way!

I know, all cops are not this way; a majority of them are fine man and woman but few of them are twerps and racist and it’s scary thinking that at any moment my life can end just because I’m going 5 miles over the speed limit or I’m jogging in the wrong neighborhood or for any other reason…

I can’t even find words to express what I feel when I think this could happen to one of my child at any time.

Angela Duckworth wrote a post yesterday and I wanted to share the first part of it with you.

In the wake of the brutal killings of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, and Breonna Taylor, the very fabric of this country seems to be fraying—revealing rifts, injustice, and anger decades and centuries in the making. 

In these darkest of times, I have found it helpful to reflect on my values, sitting down and writing about what I hold most important and why. Research shows that this simple activity has many benefits, including orienting our attention to the needs of people around us. The archive of “This I Believe,” essays read by their authors on National Public Radio since the 1950s, has inspiring examples. 

Character is not only what you believe but what you do: action rooted in the values you hold most dear, for the good of others, not just yourself.

You can find the full post here.

This helped me figure out a way to talk to my children when they start growing up, having values and knowing what our family stands for, what we do and what we don’t do. And hopefully and I do really mean it, hopefully this will change soon.