“I hate you” is a very strong statement. I would rather say ‘how did you come to say this, or think like that, or be like that…?
Trying to understand why someone did, think, act a certain way makes them feel heard and understood and it makes you know why they do what they do, and why given the same circumstances, you might be like them.
Trying to understand others is a gift and one that we all might want to have and improve, certainly I know I need to improve it!
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