‘When I see you being late every time we plan something, I feel angry because I value making a plan and following it. Next time, would you be willing to start getting ready early, so you’re not late?‘
‘when you see me being late every time we plan something, you feel angry because you value making a plan and following it. Next time, would you like me to start getting ready early, so we are not late?‘
The first one clearly states how I am without assigning blame or criticism and request that which would enrich my life without demanding. The second one empathically receives how you are without hearing blame or criticism and empathically receives that which would enrich your life without hearing any demand.
Thanks to Marshall B. Rosenberg for this type of communication. 1 page PDF version here.