Let it rain

The best thing to do when it’s raining is to let it rain.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

It’s not an excuse to have a negative reaction. Grab an umbrella, stay inside, walk (or dance) in the rain,… that’s about the only thing we can do, to let it rain.

The only thing we control is our thoughts and our actions nothing else.

What is wrong with you

I caught myself saying this to someone ‘what is wrong with you?’ and later, when I was thinking back to the conversation we had, I asked myself apart from making the other person feel bad, what was the point for saying that?
Hopefully next time I will catch myself before uttering that sentence out. To more self-control in the future.

Non violent communication

When I see you being late every time we plan something, I feel angry because I value making a plan and following it. Next time, would you be willing to start getting ready early, so you’re not late?

when you see me being late every time we plan something, you feel angry because you value making a plan and following it. Next time, would you like me to start getting ready early, so we are not late?

The first one clearly states how I am without assigning blame or criticism and request that which would enrich my life without demanding. The second one empathically receives how you are without hearing blame or criticism and empathically receives that which would enrich your life without hearing any demand.

Thanks to Marshall B. Rosenberg for this type of communication. 1 page PDF version here.

Authority vs enrollment

Managers have to wait for approvals, leaders have to seek enrollment.

Managers are not bad, they are crucial and needed. They weigh every option and decide the best way going forward ‘this is where we’re going as a team, I want you to be part of this journey.’
Leaders, on the other hand, have to cast a vision of what winning looks like and invite the whole organization, the whole team, the whole group to follow them ‘this is where we’re going as a team, who wants to be part of this journey?’

Nature and nurture

What shapes a person? Is it nature or nurture?

I have seen this argument and so many opinions on it, so here is mine: instead of nature vs nurture, it should be nature and nurture. They both affect a person’s behavior and they interact with one another.

The means to a goal can/will change as you go

In the hope of getting better; it’s not about doing the right thing, it’s about doing something.

Soon you will know if what you’re doing is working or not, the main thing is getting started with the mindset of course-correcting as you go. The goal can stay the same but the means to a goal can/will change as you go!