5-Frank Points Friday

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5-Frank Points Friday,” a list of what I’m pondering and exploring.

Running my first marathon ever

Tomorrow, (Saturday 14th) I’m really excited to get to run my first marathon ever (26.2miles/42.17km) called the Veterans Marathon and Heroes 5K to honor and support our veterans! Honestly, I hate running so I never trained for this marathon but I want to see how far I can push my body and my mind. I have hip problems, every time I run for a long time, my hips dislocate and they hurt really bad and I can’t walk for days. But I believe I can finish 26 miles and I’m going to do it with all I got. As MLK said “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”

My goal is to get to the finish line, however long it takes me!

Drink I have been enjoying

Cold Whole Buttermilk (Ikivuguto) – Those from Rwanda know what I’m talking about! Buttermilk is one of the best drink I used to enjoy back in Rwanda, and it’s very hard to find here in the US. We were driving around the other day, I was complaining how I was going to drive for about 10 min to get to the store and then my wife said, why don’t we go to Kroger, It’s right around the corner! I was surprised that we have a Kroger in my small town! We’ve been living here for over 3 years and I had no idea! Then I remembered that they have buttermilk, my favorite drink from childhood, since then I have been drinking it every night before bed! It is not quite as good as the one back home, but it is the closest thing we have here and from now on I’ll make sure I have at least 2 cartons of it in my fridge!

If you’re interested in buying it, here is a picture of what it looks like so you don’t get a different one.

Question!

If you can’t sit down in a dark, quiet place for some time everyday, with yourself and your thoughts, to really figure out who you are, what you are, what you’re about,… what makes you think other people are supposed to get you?

If you don’t know yourself, how can others do?

What I’m thinking –

Stop giving advice! Unless you have achieved some success in the thing you are giving advice about, please don’t bother. If you have been divorced 5 times, I don’t want your advice on how to have a wonderful long time marriage. If you’re broke, don’t have any money, I don’t want your advice on how to be rich. If you have a few pounds more, don’t talk about how to be in shape!
You don’t have to have AIDS to teach people that getting it, is bad. You don’t have to have a company or a business you lead to teach people how to lead, by all means please teach them, we need you but for the others stop giving advice!

If you don’t want to be poor, talk to poor people; but if you want to be wealthy, talk to wealthy people!

Quote I’m pondering –

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

Mark Twain

And, as always, please give me feedback on Twitter. Which point above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Please let me know. Just send a tweet to @realfrankibanga and put #5FrankPointsFriday at the end so I can find it.

Have a wonderful weekend, all.

Much love to you and yours,

Frank

Make a decision

It’s so amazing on how much you can accomplish once you decide.
Going to the moon was a decision.
Making the first airplane was a decision.
Climbing mount Everest for the first time was a decision.
Running a mile under 4 minutes was a decision.
Decide today on what you’re going to change to get the results you want.

To love is to be vulnerable.

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.

C.S. Lewis in The Four Loves

5-Frank Points Friday

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5-Frank Points Friday,” a list of what I’m pondering and exploring.

Great speech transcripts I came across

Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven – This speech was delivered as The commencement address to the graduates of The University of Texas at Austin on May 17, 2014. William is a retired United States Navy four-star admiral. This is one of the best speech I have come across so far and it spoke to me especially during these tough times we are in. Here is a little excerpt of the speech:

Every day during training you were challenged with multiple physical events — long runs, long swims, obstacle courses, hours of calisthenics — something designed to test your mettle. Every event had standards — times you had to meet. If you failed to meet those standards your name was posted on a list, and at the end of the day those on the list were invited to a “circus.” A circus was two hours of additional calisthenics designed to wear you down, to break your spirit, to force you to quit.

No one wanted a circus.

A circus meant that for that day you didn’t measure up. A circus meant more fatigue — and more fatigue meant that the following day would be more difficult — and more circuses were likely. But at some time during SEAL training, everyone — everyone — made the circus list.

But an interesting thing happened to those who were constantly on the list. Over time those students — who did two hours of extra calisthenics — got stronger and stronger. The pain of the circuses built inner strength, built physical resiliency.

Life is filled with circuses. You will fail. You will likely fail often. It will be painful. It will be discouraging. At times it will test you to your very core.

But if you want to change the world, don’t be afraid of the circuses.

Well said! If you want to change the world, don’t be afraid of the circuses.

Amazing drink I have been enjoying after work

Glenfiddich (Twitter, Instagram) – It’s a single malt scotch whisky from Scotland. They have a variety you can choose from, but the one I currently have at home is the 12 year old Glenfiddich 70cl bottle, that has about 40% Alcohol and it costs roughly around $50 (Not to expensive in my opinion for a quality drink like this one). I have been mixing it with Coca-Cola to give it a nice smooth taste. My wife also loves it, which was surprising since she is not a big whisky/scotch drinker.

Ted Talk I enjoyed watching

7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone by Malavika Varadan (Twitter, Instagram) – I stumbled upon this talk when I was on YouTube trying to find something funny to watch, as I tend to do when I’m feeling down. And when I saw the headline of this video, it caught my eyes. I’m not a person that finds courage to talk to people I don’t know, it’s really hard for me and If I do, it’s usually about something we have in common and I tend to end the conversation pretty quick since I’m not good at small talks. This Ted Talk gave me some tools to be able to meet someone and start a conversation with them and talk for a while.

What I’m thinking –

The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Quote I’m pondering –

You can not find peace by avoiding life.

Michael Cunningham in The Hours (A Novel)

And, as always, please give me feedback on Twitter. Which point above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Please let me know. Just send a tweet to @realfrankibanga and put #5FrankPointsFriday at the end so I can find it.

Have a wonderful weekend, all.

Much love to you and yours,

Frank

A little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.

All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.

~ Charles M. Schulz

For sure, we (humans) crave love, belonging, fitting in,… and sometimes we don’t mind a little chocolate or ice cream just to make ourselves feel good.

Don’t under-estimate the power of a little sugar now and then. 🙂

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Kent M. Keith in The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council