Frank’s Blog : The Thing You Do Most Of

“The thing that makes you successful is the thing that you do most of. “

Dave Ramsey said this on his podcast couple days ago, and it’s so true.

We get hung up on the things that don’t work out the way we had planned. You wanted to work out everyday and today you didn’t and you feel like a failure; you wanted to read one book every month and you didn’t have time to read or didn’t feel like reading for the past 2 weeks and you feel like you failed;…

When I heard Dave say this, it hit home. It’s not about those days we don’t feel good and we skip on our routine; it’s about what we do most of, for a long period of time and there comes success.

Frank’s Blog : Choose Courage Over Comfort

On Tuesday I finally watched The call To Courage, a Netflix Special by Brené Brown. She talks about how being vulnerable is not about winning or losing, it’s about having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcomes.

In this talk, there are couple things that I took away;

  • Being vulnerable means you’re going to fail.
  • There is no courage without vulnerability.
  • Vulnerability involves one of these three: uncertainty, risk or emotional exposure.
  • It’s so much easier to cause pain than to feel pain.
  • True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are, it requires you to be who you are.
  • People whose feedback matters are not people who love you despite of your mistakes and imperfection, but people who love you because of your mistakes and imperfections.

These last two takeaways hit home for me and I’m forever grateful for her to have put herself out there and for me to be able to find this.

Hopefully you find it useful.

Choose courage over comfort!

Frank’s Blog : The Imitation Game

Over the weekend a friend of mine (who we went to the same boarding high school for 6 years) recommended a movie he was watching called The Imitation Game. This movie is a 2014 British historical drama film, based on the 1983 biography Alan Turing: The Enigma by Andrew Hodges. The title of the film quotes the name of the game Alan Turing proposed for answering the question “Can machines think? “, in his 1950 seminal paper “Computing Machinery and Intelligence.

While I was watching this movie, couple phrases caught my attention:

“Sometimes it’s the very people who no one imagines anything of, who do the things that no one can imagine.”

“Just because something (someone) thinks differently from you, does that mean it’s (they are) not thinking?”

These are powerful words in a great movie.


H/T: Arsene for recommending this movie!

Frank’s Blog : How Are You Doing?

I haven’t gone to church in a long time. Since my daughter was born, she is 4 months now, I haven’t had a chance to go back to church, one of my favorite place to be. One reason is, because of the corona virus shutdown, the church had to close down for a while. The other reason is having 2 children, 2 years and under doesn’t help either, by the time weekend comes and we manage to get them to sleep, I’m exhausted and I feel like passing out. When morning comes, by just thinking about getting out of bed and all the things I have to do that day, I feel overwhelmed and I just want to stay in bed. This explains why I gained a few pounds over the past couple months, just a few pounds though!

So this past Sunday, I worked up the courage to attend church using an online live feed, it wasn’t quite like being there but it was better than staying in bed all day watching Billions.

While I was enjoying the worship songs and seeing people’s faces all happy to be there and praising God, here comes my pastor and he starts reading the bible, then he pause a little and asked us this question: How are you doing? Are you okay? With everything going on around you, all things that are coming and going, all the hurricanes, all emails and text messages and phone calls, all news about Corona Virus,all news about black people getting killed, all news about Black lives Matter protests around the world, all friends and family who are sick and or dealing with some really hard issues, with everything going on around you, are you okay? Are you really doing okay? How are you doing?

I almost said “I’m doing fine, thank you so much for asking, how are you doing?” Then I tapped on the breaks, and I let that question sink in, and as I’m tempting to answer it, I found out that I didn’t know how to answer it, and I still don’t know the answer to that question. I feel great, I feel okay, but am I really doing okay? With everything that’s going on, I would be some kind of robot if I was.

It feels great to wake up every morning and we get caught up in our everyday to do list, and we forget to take the time to ask ourselves this simple question: How am I doing? Am I okay? Really, am I doing okay?

So I turn this question to you: How are you doing? Are you doing okay? With everything going on in your life, are you really doing okay? How is your soul? Is everything okay? As my pastor said, I don’t want to know the answer to these questions but really, how are you doing?

Frank’s Blog : Is There A Universal Language?

Yesterday I was pondering on this question: what is it about music that everywhere in the world, people love it? We all sing and or listen to music!

Everyone loves music, we all sing/listen to music. Thinking about it, it’s like a universal language. I’m not talking about different genres and types of music because that’s different for all of us, but music in general is something all people of this planet enjoy.

One more reason to celebrate human beings as one!

Frank’s Blog : We Can’t Be Afraid Of Change

We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.

~ C. JoyBell C.