5-Frank Points Friday

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5-Frank Points Friday,” a list of what I’m pondering and exploring.

What I’m listening to –

Waah (YouTube, Spotify, Apple Music) – A great song by Diamond Platnumz (Instagram) featuring Koffi Olomide (Instagram). This song entails a few dance moves from East Africa and it’s a great listen after a long day or simply if you’re looking for a change of mood! Check it out, and you will see what I mean!

TV Show I just finished watching

Taken – A Netflix short TV Serie (Only 2 Seasons) that I highly recommend if you like action movies. The series follows a former Green Beret, Bryan Mills played by Clive Standen, as he deals with a personal tragedy that shakes his world. As he fights to overcome the incident and exact revenge, Mills is pulled into a career as a deadly CIA operative.
My wife and I, enjoyed watching it together.

New Word/Term I learned –

Preference falsification – The act of misrepresenting one’s want because of perceived social pressure.
This helped me explain a lot of my behavior, why I do certain things I do, where they came from and why people close to me perceive me a certain way!
The term was described by Timur Kuran, a Turkish American economist and Professor of Economics and Political Science at Duke University, on a recent episode of The Hidden Brain Podcast called A conspiracy of Silence.

5 Questions to ask before making a decision –

From Andy Stanley‘s new book ” Better decisions, fewer regrets.”

* Why am I doing this, really?
* What story do I want to tell?
* Is there attention that deserves my attention?
* What’s the wise thing to do?
* What does love require of me?

You can listen to Andy Stanley explain why these 5 questions and how he came up with them on The Entreleadership Podcast!

Quote I’m pondering –

Do for one what you wish to do for many.”
Andy Stanley

And, as always, please give me feedback on Twitter. Which point above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Please let me know. Just send a tweet to @realfrankibanga and put #5FrankPointsFriday at the end so I can find it.

Have a wonderful weekend, all.

Much love to you and yours,

Frank

Stop being real!

No one wants to be around people who think they are being real with you. We all know those people as mean, self-centered and insensitive. Instead of being real, a little kindness and respect could go a long way. Instead of telling people what they did wrong or their short comings, how about we ask questions? Questions like these:

Hey, I notice you were mean to the server, is everything okay?
How did you come to see world, the way you do?
What’s it like walking in your shoes, with everything you’ve been through?
. . .

Time you enjoy wasting…

It’s that time of the year! I consider the days between Thanksgiving and Christmas, days to slow down, to pause and meditate on how the year went and what we could’ve done better. It’s the time to check on how we are doing with our goals and maybe set new ones. It’ time to relax and rest. it’s time to get enough sleep. It’s time to be with our family and loved ones. To those who have the luxury to take some time off, make sure you get enough rest and get ready for 2021.

Remember, as Marthe Troly-Curtin put it, ‘time you enjoy wasting, is not wasted time!’

The Key to happiness.

Maybe Shakespeare was right. Maybe all the world was a stage. Maybe without the act everything would fall apart. The key to happiness wasn’t being yourself, because what did that even mean? Everyone had many selves. No. The key to happiness is finding the lie that suits you best.
~ Matt Haig

5-Frank Points Friday

Hi All!

Here is your weekly dose of “5-Frank Points Friday,” a list of what I’m pondering and exploring.

What I’m watching

X-Men movies – If you ever had a chance to watch any of these movies, you know that they are stellar. Lately I’ve had the chance to watch them from the very first one and it’s amazing to see how the whole story unfolds. Great movies!

Podcast I have been enjoying listening to


Global News Podcast – From BBC World Service. I like listening to this podcast to get a quick glimpse on what’s happening around the world in about 30min.

Great website I found –

Peddle – It’s a quick and easy website where you can sell your car. When I found it, I thought it was to good to be true, I had a junk car that I didn’t know what to do with, then I found Peddle. I typed in my car’s info, a couple of minutes later they gave me a quote of how much they will give me for them to come and take it (which was $215), and boom the next day, they showed up and took the car and gave me my check. Hassle free and great customer care!

What I’m thinking –

How would the world look like, if everyone on this earth was kind?
What if we were kind to those who are not kind to us?

Quote I’m pondering –

Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.”
Jim Rohn

And, as always, please give me feedback on Twitter. Which point above is your favorite? What do you want more or less of? Other suggestions? Please let me know. Just send a tweet to @realfrankibanga and put #5FrankPointsFriday at the end so I can find it.

Have a wonderful weekend, all.

Much love to you and yours,

Frank

Happy Thanksgiving!

Woah, what a year! Yet, here you are, reading this…

To those who lost loved one(s), friends, work-mates, church members,… I am sorry for your loss. It’s hard for me to navigate or understand what’s happening in your world and I’m deeply sorry it happened. It’s not supposed to be this way and all I wish is that all of this goes away soon.

I am sad for those who lost their lives from COVID-19, I’m sad for those whose health condition got worse due to COVID-19, I’m sad for those who don’t have anything to eat, for those who have loved ones that are currently sick, for those in the hospital right now, for those who have elder parents and can’t even visit them, those who are stuck at home with kids and no food, those who got fired, laid off or furloughed, …

Yet, here we are! So many things to be grateful for. I am grateful for everyone who was there for me, I’m grateful for my health and the health of my family, I’m grateful for having people like you that keeps me accountable for the things I set out to do, I’m grateful that you keep giving me your time and attention, I’m grateful for my wife and my two kids, I’m grateful for having a roof over my head and food in the pantry,…

May today be the day we realize all that we have lost, mourn and be sad about them and also realize all the good things that keeps happening in our lives.

I wish you a wonderful and happy Thanksgiving!

Be kind!

Be kind!

Some people don’t know how to be kind, how to be decent human beings. But that doesn’t change the fact that we have to be kind to others, especially when they are not kind to us.