Responsibility

Life rarely changes in a positive way without an increase in responsibility.
That can mean taking ownership of your health or committing to a relationship or starting a business.
Whatever it is, if you want the trajectory to change, the amount of responsibility usually has to change.

James Clear

Ideas and effort

If you’re not working hard, ideas don’t matter. The best idea is worthless without execution.
If you’re already working hard, ideas are crucial. Most effort is wasted on mediocre ideas.

James Clear

You can be the kind of parents you wish you had

You can be.

You can be the kind of parents you wish you had. You can be supportive and loving. You can get your act together. You can provide. You can understand. And as they get older, you may well have the opportunity to be the grandparent you wish you had too—that fun, loving, wise resource that you didn’t get. You can be the extended family you never had.

Wishing gets us nowhere and nothing but resentment and frustration. But being? Well, that will make all the difference in the world. For them and for us.

How to love yourself

“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am.

It is silly, isn’t it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim “You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself” made clear sense. And I add, “Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”

Author and social activist bell hooks

Raising kids

Doing better than our parents is a low bar. We have to give our kids not just what we lacked, but what they need. What they deserve.

Daily dad, every dad needs a little help – blog

This quote made me pause and think for a while because so far, my goal was to be the kind of parent that I wish I had. Everything, looking back, that I wish my parents had given me, I was going to give to my kids and when I read this quote, I realized that was a low bar to set, I need to give them not just what I never got but also what they need.

As the name of the blog suggests (rightly so), every dad needs a little help.